by Lindsey Vallem
It took two whole decades for people to start to believe the science that proved smoking cigarettes was harmful and we are watching that same thing happen with pornography. Society wants the science and proof to prove that pornography is harmful. Yet, when the evidence comes out, as a society, we don’t accept it or acknowledge the problem. As a society we ignore the effects, and continue to allow it into our homes, relationships and daily lives.
Pornography more complex than just a right or wrong activity. Its what pornography does to the human brain, the addiction it creates and the low self esteem and dishonesty that follows that is the problem. Family and marital pornography statistics by WEBROOT help put things into perspective.
- According to National Coalition for the Protection of Children & Families, 2010, 47% of families in the United States reported that pornography is a problem in their home
- Pornography use increases the marital infidelity rate by more than 300%
- 40 percent of “sex addicts” lose their spouses, 58 percent suffer considerable financial losses, and about a third lose their jobs
- 68% of divorce cases involve one party meeting a new paramour over the Internet while 56% involve one party having an “obsessive interest” in pornographic websites.
Pornography affects marriages in so many harmful ways. It breaks trust with your spouse; comparisons and expectations of what your spouse should be verse what they are, distorts what intimacy was made for which then destroys meaningful and loving intimacy between you and your spouse. The longer pornography is apart of your marriage, the more damaging and destructive it will become.
Debt to Life explains why so many married couples struggle with pornography addictions, “The porn industry thrives on “customer dissatisfaction.” I heard a podcast explain the difference between sexual addiction and drug addiction. They stated that the drug addict craves “more” but the sexual addict craves “different.” In other words, a heroin addict wants more heroin. But a sex addict doesn’t just want more sex; he wants “different” sex.
The power behind porn is lust. And lust doesn’t crave “prettier” – it craves “different.” It’s why Tiger Woods can be married to a super model and still cheats with numerous other women. It’s not that his wife wasn’t “attractive enough,” it’s just that lust always craves “different.” The deception is that “different” will satisfy you, but of course, once you have what you craved you want something different. It never ends.”
We are currently living in a society that sex sells, it’s acceptable on so many levels and it’s all around us. It’s in the songs on the radio, in magazine articles, TV commercials and in the movies we thought were rated accordingly. Within seconds, on your laptop or cell phone it can be accessed. You can search anything you want to see, any version of pornography from mild to dangerous within seconds and at any age.
Brushfires Foundation found that in the United States alone research shows that 73 percent of youth (93% of boys and 62% of girls) have seen online pornography before age 18. More than one-half of male youth Internet users ages 14 to 15 have been exposed to online pornography in the past year, as have more than two-thirds of those 16 to 17.
It’s not pulling an old magazine from your dad’s trashcan like it use to be years ago. It’s in our hands already and as a society, when do we start to accept the facts that pornography is destroying our families, our daily lives and being exposed to our children way too easily? Pornography is the new drug.